heartcufflinks asked 4 days ago in : Day in, day out
my s.o. and i have been together 4 years off & on. recently i moved to cali and after losing his job, he is now considering moving out here to start a new. i'm excited about the thought of living together so soon, which we planned to do in a few years. but i'm worried about his financial stability and adjusting to cohabitation. can anyone relate?
juicy_j replied 4 days ago
Other than the financial problems you seem to have allot other things that aren't calibrated. Living together with rocky financially problems is only going to expedite your underlined problems.Don't move in together..esp not for monetary reason!
ChocolatBoy1der replied 4 days ago
Nothing says we were meant to be together like going through tough times together.
heartcufflinks replied 2 days ago
okay so one person says nay one person says yay (or may..be). @juicy: we do have some issues and things to discuss but both of us are just going for it for the most part. "love and doubt have never been on speaking terms" is like the mantra lately.
@chocolat: that's how i feel too, but i can't stop thinking about the long-term and worrying if this will hurt us in the end.
heartcufflinks replied 2 days ago
for the record, i would (and have) loved him with or without money. and he seems to be making some needed changes. but i guess the second mantra would be "love don't pay the bills." society always seems to praise the man supporting the woman, but often criticize the woman supporting the man. even if it's just short-term.
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